There are No Ordinary Moments

And There are No Routine Office Visits

“Oh, and one more thing Dr. Culpepper…”

IMG_2379I hear those words frequently, just as we’re leaving the exam room.
It’s often the most important part of an office visit. That moment when both the physician and the patient have let their guard down. It’s a safe moment. And sometimes it’s the
real reason a person came to see me.

“My father loved you.”
I looked at the middle aged mom putting her over-stuffed purse back on her shoulder. Claire hasn’t changed much in twenty years. Her kids have worn her out a little, but she still grins the same way that she did as a college student. I remember her dad. Funny thing is that while I can hardly remember where I put my car keys this morning, I can still remember most of my patients quite clearly. Her dad was tough. An oil man.
He didn’t grin so much.

“How long’s it been?”
“Two years.” She stood with the heavy purse hanging on her shoulder. Obviously she’d grown accustomed to its weight.
“He was a good man,” I said. Not much more to say, so I gave her a doctorly pat on the back. Sometimes being quiet is the best medicine.

Claire had come to see me for a “routine” visit. CPT code 99213.
A level 3 office visit, defined as the evaluation and management of an established patient with a problem of minimal complexity.
The most common code used in primary care billing.
It doesn’t pay much, but it’s the foundation of our industry.
The truth is that there’s absolutely nothing routine about it.

I thought our visit was done. And as you might guess, I was behind. I’m often behind.
“He said you saved his life.”
That comment surprised me. After all, we were just acknowledging his passing.
Not much life saving there.
I must have looked confused because she clarified. “You changed his life.”

Now I’ve been doing this long enough not to take credit for the big stuff.
That’s in other hands. Much bigger hands. But it is polite to say “thank you” and listen. Besides, I really like compliments. So I kept listening.

“Mom said that he came home after a visit with you, I think it was for a blood pressure check…” She paused as if I would fill in the blank, but HIPAA held my tongue.
“He said he’d been waiting for a doctor to tell him when it was time to quit drinking.
He emptied out the cabinet and didn’t touch a drop in last three years of his life.”

“I’m glad he took my advice.”

IMG_2592“It was a wonderful three years. Mom had her husband back,
my son got to know his grandfather…” She adjusted the heavy purse and moved it away from her shoulder. I was a little bit afraid that she’d sit back down. My nurse is used to apologizing to our patients about their wait. So I put my hand on the doorknob to silently steer the situation.

Mom’s are smart. She read my body language.
“I know you’ve got to go, Dr. Culpepper,”
she said, “you always have so many people waiting. But I just wanted you to know that by taking that extra moment, by stopping on the way out,
you gave my father much more than a minute of your time.”

“Thank you,” I said. Her words made me feel warm. In that moment, the rushing and the stress of primary care was far away. The kind of moment that keeps family doctors doing what we do. A reminder that no office visit is ever routine.
Then I remembered… this was her office visit.IMG_2586

I took my hand off the doorknob and placed it firmly on her shoulder, to the spot where her heavy purse had tugged just moments before.
“Claire, you know the real reason he changed? Because he loved you.”

There are no ordinary moments.

Guy L. Culpepper, MD

12 thoughts on “There are No Ordinary Moments

  1. Amazing Doc… and a wonderful reminder that every single person has a great story. In fact, one of my rules to live by is that there are no bad stories, just bad writers. And in your world, there truly are no ordinary moments. But what makes these moments extraordinary is you. Thank God for your perceptive heart to see and feel the significance in a passing instant, and the wisdom and courage to pursue it to someone’s blessing or healing. And thank you for all of the “Oh, one more thing…” moments I’ve had with you… none of them have been forgotten nor unappreciated.

    And keep it up… we understand.

  2. Very touching and well written. It takes an extraordinary person to deal with people volumes like you do and still provide that high level of “I care about you” that creates
    security in the doctor/patient relationship. Don’t ever doubt yourself doc and if this gig stops working for you, come help me in the technical world where I have to attempt the same feat.

    • Thanks Ernie. I’m glad that bright people like you keep the technical world healthy. That digital world kinda freaks me out. I mean, seriously, what do all those 1’s and 0’s really want anyway? What motivates that internet thing to get so big and how can we talk the world wide web into exercising more? Don’t even get me started on those viruses…

  3. Morning, Doc. I finally took the time to look at your blog after my last visit. This posting gave me the same feelings I have after every visit to your office. You and your staff always brighten my day. I have been blessed to have you as my doctor for the last 20 years. I look forward to the next 20!

    • Thanks Richard. People like you, who understand that our relationship is a partnership, makes this doctor’s work so much happier. I would be honored to be part of your healthcare for 20 more years!

  4. Dr. Culpepper, I just returned from my annual physical with you and logged on to your blog for the first time. I am reminded now why I travel 70 miles round trip to have you as my physician and friend. This article touched me and motivates me in ways that you do not know.
    Thank you.

  5. Spectacular, you’ve outdone yourself this time. Makes me want to get sick again real soon just so I can stop by for another office visit. 🙂

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